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Am I Too Traumatized to be in a Relationship?

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Your dating difficulties are not caused by something about you that’s permanently flawed. If you’ve experienced trauma, being vulnerable in relationships reveals the old wounds that never healed. Each new connection you make can be challenging because, for you, it is an opportunity to finally be fulfilled or to suffer yet another potential heartache. Traumatic experiences alter the ability to connect with others authentically. You build walls. Fear guides you. “Worst-case scenarios” are everywhere. You develop unhealthy coping strategies. Trauma changes your view of the world and yourself on so many levels. It changes thoughts, feelings, the nervous system, and your ability to trust. Trauma is much more than a story of what happened to you. The feelings, beliefs, and body sensations that you soaked up during the trauma are still very much alive in you—not as memories, but as reactions in the present. Trauma is also what did not happen to you but should have—all your unmet needs, abando

Am I Too Traumatized to be in a Relationship? Skip to content Am I Too Traumatized to be in a Relationship? Dating when you have trauma can be challenging, but not impossible. Est. reading time: 6 min. Your dating difficulties are not caused by something about you that’s permanently flawed. If you’ve experienced trauma, being vulnerable in relationships reveals the old wounds that never healed. Each new connection you make can be challenging because, for you, it is an opportunity to finally be fulfilled or to suffer yet another potential heartache. What Trauma Does Traumatic experiences alter

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