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  • 从解决方案开始，就像是先造一把钥匙，却不知道它能打开什么门。虽然可以在很多门上测试你的钥匙，但是那会消耗特别多的精力。如果你爱上问题而不是解决方案时，你就会为了某扇确定的门来打造钥匙。 爱上大多数人的问题，而非自己的解决方案。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 如德鲁克所言，企业真正的工作是创造客户，而非完善某种解决方案。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 所以不是这个功能设计的不好，而是根本没有定义清楚问题是什么，就盲目从别的产品/服务中照搬模式 —— 这其实在许多公司也存在，因为去「定义问题」很难且没有成果，倒不如从一个方案跳到另一个方案，至少能保证工作量和有开发成果证明。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 一旦觉得别的产品中有个某个功能/服务不错，那么一定要提醒自己，不要去分析他的实现方式，而是去思考他到底解决了用户什么问题。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 当我们被一个想法击中时，往往先看清楚的是解决方案，也是花费精力最多的地方；但多数产品都失败了，不是没有方案，而是没有定义好问题。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 用户要求你增加更多功能，虽然他们未必用的到； 解决方案更具体可操（抄）作，产出明确；而问题往往模糊不清，想要得到明确结果很难；
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 我确实体验到了心流的存在，可我也清楚此间的痛苦有多深。可是好比书里也总用《黑客帝国》来举例子一样，并不是所有人在红蓝药丸面前去选择面对真相，活在被幻觉束缚的生活里也没什么，这些都只是选择。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 冥想说起来非常简单，你的大脑在思维层面意识到了一个道理并不意味着你的身体也会产生对应的反应，所以冥想期间要训练的就是通过呼吸去观察身体的感知，试图更真切理解自己。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 正如她在《A Writer's World: Travels 1950–2000》的序言写到：「无论如何，作为一个新手和老兵，一个男人和女人，一个记者和有抱负的书写者，在这半个世纪中，我游历了这个世界，并且写下它。」 Wish you to be a writer who travels not a traveller who writes.
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 最后的最后，我们会发现，在这个时代里的任何语境下，无论社会家庭还是个人，都没有人会成为赢家。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 亚里士多德所言：逃避一切、恐惧一切、对任何事情都无坚定立场的人是懦夫，无所畏惧地去迎接一切危险的人是莽夫。每一天都比前一天做的好一些，不断进步才是关键。同时不要犯致命的错误，这是长寿的根本。不要追求第一名，而是保持稳步前进，不要出局。随着时间推移，竞争者会越来越少，你会越来越领先。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • 最好的策略并不是让人获得最高回报的策略。而应该是即使在困难时期也能被坚守的好策略。
    Vol.021：爱上问题，而非自己的解决方案
  • Endure. Wrestle. Suffer. Struggle. Keep working. Your heart is restless, my heart is restless, all our hearts are restless, “until they find their rest in Thee”—a rest that may well be found in full only after our death. So be it. Until then: stay.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • I’ve said it more than once to some guy across the table who tells me he’s planning to leave his marriage: You should stay. Sit in the awful, agonizing sorrow of it all, and figure some things out. Your life is very hard. I know you’ve thought it through more than I can imagine; I know you’ve calculated the cost-benefit, weighed your options; and all that is fine and good. There is no way of knowing how this will play out in your very real life. Nobody can predict the future. Something has to give, yes. But it doesn’t need to be this. I think you should stay.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • Because however it may sometimes seem that circumstance, fortune, and your exasperating spouse are conspiring to sabotage your happiness and peace of mind, the one certain, irrefutable common factor in all your circumstances is you. You are the bearer and carrier of grief, disappointment, frustration, and heartache, just as you are also the source of much of the same.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • Pay attention and mind the details and you save yourself a lot of hassle and money
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • I used to blame advertisers for that restlessness and dissatisfaction, but I don’t think that’s right. We were already restless; we always have been. The advertisers just figured out how to nurture, tend, exacerbate, and capitalize on the pre-existing condition, that innate restlessness, promising that something new is going to set all to rights. When the flashing sidebar connects that hand lotion, those hiking boots, a beach vacation, or some rugged SUV with satisfaction, joy, and inner peace, it sure feels like we’d be suckers not to buy it. And when that thing inevitably disappoints, we har…
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • That jam-packed flow of ads is full of shiny new things, new techniques, new experiences that promise to finally alleviate the so-far insatiable, burning, lonely, primordial ache.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • But a brand-new house won’t fix your troubles any more than a fresh start with a fascinating new somebody will. Don’t tell me; I already know it would be easier to just cut and run, because I know how hard it is to live with other people
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • Repair and remain. Work with what you’ve got. Sit still for a moment, take stock, make some changes. Big changes, if necessary.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • no point thinking you need a brand-new life, but, well, let’s not kid around—you could use some serious updates and upgrades yourself.
    Repair and Remain - Comment Magazine
  • When we start seeing someone and feel the slightest twinge of excitement, our biology gets into “okay let’s do this” mode and bombards us with chemicals designed to get us to mate (lust), fall in love (the Honeymoon Phase), and then commit for the long run (attachment). Our brains can usually override this process if we’re just not that into someone, but for all those middle ground cases where the right move is probably to move on and find something better, we often succumb to the chemical roller coaster and end up getting engaged.
    How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 — Wait But Why
  • → Human biology evolved a long time ago and doesn’t understand the concept of having a deep connection with a life partner for 50 years.
    How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 — Wait But Why
  • No, when it comes to dating, society frowns upon thinking too much about it, instead opting for things like relying on fate, going with your gut, and hoping for the best. If a business owner took society’s dating advice for her business, she’d probably fail, and if she succeeded, it would be partially due to good luck—and that’s how society wants us to approach dating.
    How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 — Wait But Why
  • Society encourages us to stay uneducated and let romance be our guide.
    How to Pick Your Life Partner - Part 1 — Wait But Why
  • I’m a writer and want to spend some time with you while you do your normal thing so I can get a better understanding of Russian culture (I learned early in the trip that hanging out and watching someone do their thing is super weird-seeming without any explanation, so the note was key).
    Russia: What You Didn't Know You Don't Know — Wait But Why
  • 一些很容易被忽略的小东西，当结合在一起时会产生奇迹: 好奇心是跨学科的（其中大部分是在你的专业之外）。 承受风险的能力 vs. 假设自己可以避免风险的能力。 尊重运气就像尊重风险一样。 对 FOMO 的低敏感性。 一个敏感的 bullshit 探测器。 重视自己的独立性而不是别人的优先权。 尊重历史多于预测。 尊重乐观主义和混乱期的上升趋势的区别。 在你精疲力尽或者过度成长之前，在你领先的时候，放弃，这样你才能成功。 “当你周围的人都失去理智的时候，做一些平常的事情”。 思考概率与确定性，包括一个好的决定可能导致坏的结果，反之亦然。 承认有些事情是不可知的，不要自欺欺人地认为你可以搞清楚它们。 确定你在玩什么游戏，不要被玩不同游戏的人说服。 期待世界荒谬和可笑 vs. 假设世界总是由理性的决定支配。 接受一些低效率和麻烦而不失去你的冷静。 知道自己行为的长期后果。 配得上你的好名声。 与你不同的人相处。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 社区带来的最重要的价值，是提高品牌的知名度。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 虽然我们可以用模糊的概念讨论甚至思考，但世界是由事实构成的
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 因为我们思考的基石源自于各种概念的组合，所以概念本身是思考的基础。如果概念不清晰，即使是诚实对待自己，也像是在沙土上盖楼一样，谈何清晰地思考？ 但多数时候我们不但用模糊的概念思考，甚至还和别人讨论乃至争执。就像 AI 会不会替代人类一样，许多人可以为此吵的不可开交，但却鲜少去看一下彼此口中的「AI」 到底是指什么，以什么样的方式，替代谁。 难怪维特根斯坦说：许多时候人与人的冲突，源自于对于概念的理解不同。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 承认很多事情自己看不懂，也就是没有意义。确保自己说的，和知道的一样多。 从这个角度说，哲学必定是指导实践，而非脱离实践的形而上学。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 大多数过于形而上的问题，本身就是没有意义的问题，根本不值得回答。所以在是，否之外，还有一个选择叫无意义，不必花费时间去琢磨。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • 哲学的任务应该是澄清概念，而不是寻求解释。
    Vol.016：澄清概念，而不是寻求解释
  • Can you share any advice on becoming a good writer? – James M. (Dublin, Ireland) 1) Write. I wrote 300 blog posts between the ages of 23 and 29 before starting Wait But Why. It can take a while to find your voice and your tone and your style. At the beginning, you’ll be all over the place, the same way you are when you try a new sport or video game or musical instrument. That’s good—you’re experimenting on a canvas. Don’t judge your own writing at this phase—you’re experimenting and searching and playing—you’re not doing your best writing yet. If your mammoth is freaking out too much and ruini…
    Mailbag #1 — Wait But Why
  • What is happiness? – Frank P. (Tokyo, Japan) Reality minus expectations
    Mailbag #1 — Wait But Why
  • Do you have any favorite interesting/educational YouTube channels to watch? – Christopher D. (New Haven, CT) There are so many good ones – it’s incredible how easy it is today to have someone teach you stuff in an entertaining way for free while you’re sitting on the couch. Six favorites: Kurzgesagt CGP Grey VSauce TedEd Veritasium SciShow Would love to hear about others in the comments.
    Mailbag #1 — Wait But Why
  • Do you know how to code? Or are you planning to learn it? – Dawid P. (Sufczyn, Poland) No. But I do know BC Calculus, thank god, because the American public school curriculum was last updated in 1820. Part of me thinks it’s a no-brainer time investment to learn to code, but part of me also wonders if we might be in a phase of time when it’s an important skill to have, but then that phase ends. There was a time when it was important for computer people to know how to actually use 1’s and 0’s and now there’s no need for that, so maybe people who are being born now will never need to learn how to…
    Mailbag #1 — Wait But Why
  • All signs point to “no”. But American history is full of moments when all signs pointed to no. So yes?
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • I just started a new relationship. How do I not fuck it up and/or how do I make love stay? – Robert B. (Denver, CO) A general suggestion: Have your mantra be “I’m gonna show them exactly who I really am and if it turns out they don’t like it, they’re not the right person for me anyway.” Takes all the pressure off. A specific suggestion: Plan fun, creative, exciting “mystery dates” and refuse to tell them what the plan is until they get there. A mystery date can be any kind of experience or activity—just something outside the box.
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • If you had power to dictate what should be taught in schools—things that everyone had to master before they get to enter adulthood—what would you add to the curriculum? – Audrey T. (Toronto, Canada) General (should be part of many classes): Independent, first-principles thinking How to argue and debate productively How to be an effective learner Intellectual humility Independent problem-solving skills, through practice Subject-specific: Basic math Basic science, and more importantly, a lot of practice with the scientific method Basic civics Basic money management Enough writing and speaking sk…
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • Two friends and I started zoom-chatting every Friday during covid and it just turned into a thing that now happens once a week, and the conversations are great because they’re free of big-picture catch-up—they’re either about ongoing keeping up, or more often, just fun divergent conversation about third-party topics. If you have anyone you like talking to enough to do it a few times every month, try to make that happen.
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • Hanging out means shooting the shit about whatever’s on your mind and exploring new topics together. If I haven’t seen someone in forever and then they’re in town for a week and I see them twice, it’s the second hangout, with the catch-up out of the way, where the more interesting conversation usually happens.10
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • see the people you really like talking to more frequently
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • A lot of what used to be news has morphed into propaganda, and there’s no shame in ignoring propaganda. The really big stuff will filter its way to you no matter what you do.
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • What countries were your absolute favorite travel experiences? – Samantha K. (Singapore) When I was 20, I took a solo backpacking trip to Thailand and China and became infatuated with traveling. Since then (covid notwithstanding), I’ve tried to visit at least two new places every year. Here are some of my favorite travel experiences and best recommendations (most can be done on a backpacker’s budget): Taking a commuter boat for three days down the Amazon from Belem to Manaus (Northern Brazil), sleeping in a mess of hammocks and looking out at the little river communities along the way. Riding …
    Mailbag #2 — Wait But Why
  • 具体到每小时做了什么，我会用4个字符简单记下那小时在干吗，并且依据个人生活方式将其分为三类：输出(工作和创作)/输入/玩乐(社交和运动等)，用不同颜色来代表。 有了颜色标识后，每周过去，大致能做到一眼望去就知道自己这周状态如何的效果。
    关于「时间都花去哪了」，我记了10年 - 少数派
  • 你首先要去见到大师是怎么做的，你首先去看那个最高水平的人，他的那个工作方式，然后把它印刻在你的脑海里。接下来就是拿出 3 倍的训练量去练习，这个是我认为提高最快的一种方法。
    事不过三 No.125 向上的力量 | 事不过三
  • 人性就是所有人共同的部分，你必须要能够克服每一个人都有的共同的部分，你才有机会找到什么叫做自己。回归到人性，跟别人一样，是最方便、最安全的，但也因为这样，很可能是最不愉快的。 你必须要有勇气说，我不要做一般人，我不要做别人，我要做自己。那个过程当中，上上下下是痛苦的，可是尼采给我的信心是，等到有一天你走这条路，走到一定程度之后，你摆脱了你觉得还要去模仿别人的时候，你眼前看到的，你能够体会的、就是最美好的东西。 依照尼采的说法，克服人性，找到自己，它最重要的目标就是，你要变成你自己价值判断标准的设立者，人这个时候变成了一个创造者，人创造的最重要的一种东西就是创造自己相信的价值。
    事不过三 No.125 向上的力量 | 事不过三
  • 尼采会一直告诉我们，人生最重要的、最关键的一件事情是，你有没有一刻，会产生勇气面对自己。人所需要的最重要的勇气，是克服你内在的人性，变成你自己。
    事不过三 No.125 向上的力量 | 事不过三
  • 彼得·蒂尔在《从0到1》的开篇就问了一个问题： 在什么重要问题上你与其他人有不同看法？（What important truth do very few people agree with you on?） 在第三章，他又援引了托尔斯泰的一句话： 幸福的家庭总是相似的，不幸的家庭各有各的不幸。 （ All happy families are alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way） 并接着反驳说，在商业上，情形恰恰相反。企业成功的原因各有不同，因为它们都在做其他企业不能做的事；而企业失败的原因却相同，因为它们都无法逃脱竞争。
    事不过三 No.125 向上的力量 | 事不过三