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Howard Halim

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  • everything came through effort and that the world was full of interesting challenges that could help you learn and grow. (Dweck called this the “growth mindset.”) That’s why they were so thrilled by the harder puzzles — the easier ones weren’t any sort of challenge, there was nothing you could learn from them. But the really tough ones? Those were fascinating — a new skill to develop, a new problem to conquer.
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • The successful kids didn’t just live with failure, they loved it! When the going got tough, they didn’t start blaming themselves; they licked their lips and said “I love a challenge.” They’d say stuff like “The harder it gets the harder I need to try.” Instead of complaining it wasn’t fun when the puzzles got harder, they’d psych themselves up, saying “I’ve almost got it now” or “I did it before, I can do it again.”
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • Everyone had always told me that you were either an extroverted person or an introverted person. From a young age, I was quite shy and bookish, so it seemed obvious: I was an introvert.
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • The first step to getting better is believing you can get better. In her book, Mindset, Dweck explains how to start talking back to your fixed mindset. The fixed mindset says, “What if you fail? You’ll be a failure.” The growth mindset replies, “Most successful people had failures along the way.”7
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • growther athletes got better and better through constant practice, while fixies blamed their atrophying skills on everyone around them.
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • In the fixed mindset, success comes from proving how great you are. Effort is a bad thing — if you have to try hard and ask questions, you obviously can’t be very good. When you find something you can do well, you want to do it over and over, to show how good you are at it. In the growth mindset, success comes from growing. Effort is what it’s all about — it’s what makes you grow. When you get good at something, you put it aside and look for something harder so that you can keep growing.
    Believe you can change (Aaron Swartz's Raw Thought)
  • I’m acting as if I’m sure this is gonna work out, as if I, with whatever combination of talents and tenacity I have, actually have a great shot at making it all work, finding some path in the world that sustains me and also allows me to sink into what I love
    Jumping into the void - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder
  • confidence comes, at least in part, from just doing things you would do if you were confident.
    Jumping into the void - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder
  • So last night I dropped the resistance to having big dreams. I allowed myself to imagine: what are the most insane versions of success ahead of me? Publish a book? Not insane enough. Publish multiple best selling books? Nope, still timid. Publish the most widely read book of all time?
    Jumping into the void - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder
  • Having friends who are on a similar path helps
    Jumping into the void - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder
  • Focus focus focus. Pick one clear goal and go at it with monomaniacal intensity. Then rest, relax, and repeat. It doesn’t matter if you don’t pick the perfect goal to begin with. Picking anything is better than nothing. You’re guaranteed to achieve nothing if you stand still.
    Graduating College in 3 Semesters – Steve Pavlina
  • I told myself that if I ever found an idea I had high conviction in, I would drop everything to give it a fair shot.
    Here's to the fools who dream
  • In contrast, I noticed that the most likeable storytellers appeared to be smiling—in their minds—when speaking. But you didn't see it on their faces—that can feel inauthentic. Instead, you felt the joy in their words. So I tried this myself: when speaking, in my mind’s eye, I imagined I was smiling from ear to ear.
    How to tell a great story
  • while blowing his own mind, Jason exudes charisma. I noticed that charisma is the state of projecting three qualities at once: confidence + joy + love for your audience.
    How to tell a great story
  • he blows his own mind when he recounts his stories. ‍Blowing your own mind entails being excited at moments of excitement, being shocked at moments of shock, and being wowed at moments of wonder. Listeners feed off this like sugar. This, it turns out, is far more important than vocal rhythm or any other delivery trick. Because, when you blow your own mind, something mesmerizing happens: you relive the story and its impact on you in real-time. People then see that reflected on your face and in your authentic emotions.
    How to tell a great story
  • You only memorize key points then you rediscover the rich details and spontaneous turns of phrases in real time. This produces pauses, moments of self-reflection, and false starts.
    How to tell a great story
  • nearly 100% of the stories and analogies he shares in interviews are first written down.
    How to tell a great story
  • storytelling is the art of strategically withholding information. Before you begin your story, you're supposed to decide which details to withhold until the end—to maximize suspense along the way.
    How to tell a great story