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Nancy Zuo

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  • Doubt. I think the biggest challenge in my career are all the negative thoughts that flood through my brain day to day. Sometimes I think I'm too old, I got a late start, I’m not good enough and it’s been a really big challenge to not have consistency. In gymnastics I’m used to having a schedule and being able to work towards the next competition. This industry feels very self-motivated. But honestly when I work and get to go on set, or perform, I’m so grateful. It feels like such a treat to be able to work. But one thing that has helped me is that no matter what anyone else thinks, no one can…
    Amazing Asians in the Arts: Peng Peng - The Cre8sian Project
  • Every day spent in Korea led to a greater resentment towards my past self. Why hadn’t I come sooner? Overpowering the resentment was my appreciation and love for the country, culture, and people.
    Table Scraps #4: Chicken, My Cat - heesun’s table
  • I couldn’t stop crying. It would’ve been better if I did. I could’ve used that time more meaningfully at the Gacha machine that already pocketed 50000 won from me.
    Table Scraps #4: Chicken, My Cat - heesun’s table
  • Corrupt systems are led by horribly selfish individuals who are pussy footed towards change, especially when it doesn’t immediately result in further lining their own pockets.
    Table Scraps #4: Chicken, My Cat - heesun’s table
  • “Someday, you’re going to learn to stop giving a fuck. And then, you’ll be free.” Free, I am.
    Table Scraps #4: Chicken, My Cat - heesun’s table
  • We met eyes, I slow blinked, and that was that. Chicken was my cat. Really, I was Chicken’s.
    Table Scraps #4: Chicken, My Cat - heesun’s table
  • The fun thing about being a blogger is you can write about whatever the fuck you want. And a good compass for me had always been that if something was incessantly on my mind, it was probably a good post topic. So I decided to write what I call a “mini post.”
    A Short History of My Last Six Years — Wait But Why
  • And a robot is what you become when at some point you get the idea in your head that someone else is more qualified to be you than you are.
    How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You) — Wait But Why
  • from wanting to be a movie star when I was 7 to wanting to be the president when I was 17 to wanting to write film scores when I was 22 to wanting to be an entrepreneur when I was 24 to wanting to write musicals when I was 29 to most recently wanting to be a writer-ish guy.
    How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You) — Wait But Why
  • Other people will see a nice clear arrow representing a direction they feel confident is right—but find their legs walking in a different direction. They’re living with one of the most common sources of human misery, a career path they know in their heart is wrong.
    How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You) — Wait But Why
  • Ginsburg used the profits to pay for the remainder of his undergraduate degree and law school, later working as a Harvard professor before joining the administration of Ronald Reagan, who appointed him to the D.C. Circuit Court in 1986 before nominating him to the Supreme Court in 1987.[9
    Operation Match - Wikipedia
  • Over half of U.S. adults who have never been married have used a dating app, according to a 2022 Pew Research Center survey.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • The median age at marriage in 1980 had risen to 24.7 for men and 22 for women; by 2010, the median age at marriage was 28.2 for men and 26.1 for women.[29] By 2016, the median age at which individuals first married was 30 for men and 28 for women.[32]
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Most societies have had a script and young adults have been guided through that script. And now the script is being so radically revised that nobody knows what it is anymore or people have torn it up.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • From the sexual revolution of the 1960s through the start of the twenty-first century, the accepted linear patterns of courtship dissolved, as did the expectation that emotional, physical, and financial investments in a relationship would lead to a permanent commitment.[
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Socializing in mixed-sex groups began to displace dating. The old rituals of dating, courtship, and marriage were replaced by conflict and uncertainty, although many young people continued to comply with some of the gendered conventions, such as who can ask someone out.[29] To many, the dating scene was daunting, even hazardous, as the guardrails around dating and premarital sex vanished.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Today young people often play with the idea of marriage as early as the second or third date, and they certainly think about it by the fifth or sixth. By the time they have been going steady for a while they are quite apt to be discussing the number and names of their future children
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • By high school, dating was one of the most time-consuming activities in young peoples' lives, with the majority of high school students going steady by the time they were seniors.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Junior high and even elementary school students were encouraged to attend "boy-girl" parties and dances. A 1966 study found that children as young as 11 were dating, going steady, had "kissed seriously", and considered themselves to have been "in love".[1]: 50
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Women's magazines promoted the notion that the purpose of women going to college was to find a husband.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Even with the end of the war, national magazines repeatedly warned that many women would never marry because of a "man shortage" and a "surplus of women".[16]: 34–39
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Dutch dating, in which both participants split the cost of a date, was almost universally condemned as demonstrating independence on the part of the woman which would threaten the masculinity of the man. Men should order for both in a restaurant; a woman should never open a door for herself. Women were told to avoid any display of independence or intelligence, and men were told to resent those displays should they occur. Men were told to be in charge and demonstrate mastery of any situation, and women were told to expect men to make all decisions. Only men should initiate physical displays of …
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Treating was the practice of providing companionship and intimate activity in exchange for entertainment outings, gifts, and other items of monetary value, such as tickets and clothes, leading to the working class slang term "date"
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • The system of calling was governed by rules promulgated by national magazines, advice columns, and books of etiquette, which prescribed how soon one should make a call after being invited to do so,[e] whether refreshments should be served, to what degree the call should be chaperoned, proper topics of conversation, and how the call should be ended.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Rural areas of Illinois in the 1850s, for example, averaged one woman for every twenty-five men
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • The years following the Civil War in the United States brought a huge mismatch in the number of available men in the east (more than 600,000 killed in the wa
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Women in particular found personal ads to be a means for exercising some control over their circumstances.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • If I had succeeded with you at the outset and been spared all the trouble and suffering which I underwent in my pursuit of you, I fear that I would not have appreciated the great value of my conquest and might have proved a less grateful and self-sacrificing husband than I intend to show myself.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • although it was not unknown for a man to court and seduce a young woman with the promise of buying out her indenture
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • as those unmarried by age 20 were often considered "old maids"
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • One custom, brought to New England from Europe, was bundling, the practice of wrapping a couple together in a bed with a board between the two of them.[4][
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • By the 21st century, although people still meet, pair off, and sometimes marry, there is an absence of widely accepted social norms with which to comply.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • Opportunities for privacy, such as gathering berries and tending far-away fields, were welcomed by the couples.
    History of courtship in the United States - Wikipedia
  • To riff off the popular meme, “There’s two kinds of people…” Either you get discouraged and paralyzed (or even worse…quit), or you keep going. You keep creating, keep writing, and keep looking for new ways to get your work out there for the world to see. Only one of these kinds of people has a shot at succeeding in our industry. I don’t know about you, but even in the face of manifest uncertainty in our tempestuous industry, I’ll choose the second one. Every day.
    There's two kinds of people... - Phoenix Screenwriters Association
  • I'm fortunate that I started my career not in the tradition of the industry. We had to improvise a lot, to find alternative ways to accomplish something. It makes me feel lucky that I trained as an engineer. Engineering is a practical thing. I call it basically problem-solving, and nothing else. When I started directing, this training gave me psychological readiness. You had to make a thousand decisions a day. Especially in an industry in such poor condition, you had to improvise to make something work. Even to this day, that's part of the process.
    edward yang's yi yi and the tender despairs of taiwanese family life
  • I’m endlessly fascinated by people who did the practical, boring job first before finally recognizing and pursuing their artistic yearnings.
    edward yang's yi yi and the tender despairs of taiwanese family life
  • So I went to USC, and then I realized I didn't have talent at all. I didn't have what it takes to get into the film business, so I dropped out. I recognized that I better not dream this dream because I didn't have what it takes.
    The Engineer of Modern Perplexity: An Interview with Edward Yang
  • "The long-running tech-industry war between engineers and marketers has been ended at craigslist by the simple expedient of having no marketers. Only programmers, customer service reps, and accounting staff work at craigslist. There is no business development, no human resources, no sales. As a result, there are no meetings. The staff communicates by email and IM. This is a nice environment for employees of a certain temperament. "Not that we're a Shangri-La or anything," Buckmaster says, "but no technical people have ever left the company of their own accord."
    Jim Buckmaster - Wikipedia
  • "The only topic he can remember their disagreeing about is the peace sign that adorns the craigslist Web address. "Craig thought it was associated with the hippies and that hippies were discredited," Buckmaster says. "Whereas I think peace is among the most desirable things you can have."
    Jim Buckmaster - Wikipedia
  • 'Frogs croak and gulls cry silently a river floods a red leaf floats by.'"
    Jim Buckmaster - Wikipedia
  • ABGs are a collective group of rebels that have taken the initiative to establish their own standards of beauty and character; simply put, they reclaimed an identity. This identity provides women with the ability and confidence to resist the deeply-rooted patriarchal standards posed by their cultures.
    Asian Baby Girls/Gangstas: A Stereotype that Resists – oneVOICE
  • What they value instead is curiosity. Culture. Taste. The art of paying attention. Of being present, not just purposeful.
    Why the French Don’t Obsess Over Purpose - by Pamela Clapp
  • When I moved back to Paris as an adult, I was struck by how much people here were just… living. They weren’t building personal brands. They weren’t trying to optimize themselves into more perfect versions. They worked, they took real holidays, they cooked, they went to the theater. They had long conversations about everything and nothing. And they rarely used the word productive.
    Why the French Don’t Obsess Over Purpose - by Pamela Clapp
  • There's something isolating about refusing to specialise. Specialists have communities, conferences, clear progression. Multi-domain people have confusion.
    The Renaissance Worker - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • None of these connections were planned. They emerged from following curiosity without demanding immediate relevance.
    The Renaissance Worker - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • Leonardo never finished most of his projects. He'd get distracted by some new field of study, some question that demanded investigation. His clients complained constantly. But those distractions weren't random. His study of anatomy made him a better painter. His engineering improved his sculpture. His understanding of water flow influenced his architecture. Every tangent was research for everything else.
    The Renaissance Worker - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • I manage a team of twelve people who create documents for other teams who create documents for senior leadership who don't read documents. I make £150k a year. It's completely absurd, and I'm riding it as long as I can while building something real on the side."
    The death of the corporate job. - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • They're showing up, playing the game, but building escape routes. Nobody believes in the corporate role anymore, even while performing it perfectly. The belief is gone but the performance continues.
    The death of the corporate job. - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • virtually none of them believe their job title describes anything real. They're "Growth Hackers" who've never hacked anything, "Digital Transformation Leads" transforming nothing, "Innovation Managers" managing the absence of innovation.
    The death of the corporate job. - by Alex - Still Wandering
  • you're using your corporate presence to subsidise your real work
    The death of the corporate job. - by Alex - Still Wandering