On Losing a Daughter - The Atlantic

The people we were died at the exact moment our child did.

Listen − 1.0 x + Seek 0:00 30:35 This article was featured in the One Story to Read Today newsletter. Sign up for it here. My husband, David , hates Valentine’s Day. He once called it “New Year’s Eve with nuclear weapons.” I pretend not to care. Still, when the day passes entirely unremarked on, a woman can’t help but feel overlooked. On Valentine’s Day 2024, David found a way out. He booked a speech on February 14 that required traveling from our home in Washington, D.C., to Toronto. I couldn’t object—he was getting paid. Anyway, I had my own plans: an “anti–Valentine’s Day” dinner hosted by

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