Q&A with Esther Perel: Dissatisfaction in Love and Dating

Plagued by some Big Questions — is marriage worth it? Why does everyone feel so blah? — I sat down with the celebrity therapist for answers.

Photo-Illustration: The Cut; Photo: Katie McCurdy When I first met Esther Perel — some four years and four boyfriends ago — we took a walk and a subway ride without being noticed. These days, it’s difficult to cross a city street with the go-to relationship expert and psychotherapist without people doing a double take. It happened to us several times in the crowded Soho restaurant where we met last week. Amid the noise, and some rubbernecking neighbors, I tried to pin Perel down on the questions that have been haunting me of late. Is marriage still something to aspire to? How do I know when a

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