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what I will put up with in a partner - by Paola

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more people should make lists of undesirable things they will tolerate in relationships

I don’t recall where I heard this piece of general dating advice, but it went something like, “find the things you are most willing to compromise on that other people aren’t.” I think this is an excellent thing to follow. I found myself inspired both by Pandora’s list for what she desires in a partner and by an article I wrote recently about how women have standards that are too high due to having poor feedback loops. While almost all women desire similar qualities in a partner (e.g., intelligence, kindness, financial stability, etc.), although perhaps with varying weight, most women also…

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