How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real | Goodreads

First published December 31, 2001 © 2025 Goodreads, Inc.

64 reviews8 followers August 23, 2020 Really enjoyed this book, was put on to it after reading The Will To Change. Girls tend to be more aware than boys about the ways in which they are oppressed. Boys learn to keep their feelings in, and, rather than rebelling against this censorship, they choose to deny it. To not complain. To silence it. To numb themselves to their emotional needs. They follow a "stoic code". Research has shown that boys show a measurable decrease in expressiveness and connection by the ages of 3, 4, and 5. By the time they reach kindergarten, they are less willing to…

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