some thoughts on conflict - by Ava - bookbear express
We are all constantly in conflict. Conflict is just what happens when you and someone you’re in relationship with want different things. We might describe ourselves as avoiding conflict, but I personally believe there is no such thing as avoiding conflict. There is only transmuting how you experience conflict. Internal vs external conflict: People who “don’t have conflict” in their lives generally just have internal conflict instead of externalized conflict. Example: instead of telling my friend, “You being constantly 30 minutes late bothers me,” I just sulk about it silently. Implicit vs explicit conflict: I believe that ignoring the person or responding less are implicit ways of handling conflict; you are responding to the situation, just not in an explicit way. Again: I think running away from conflict does not free you from the conflict, it just changes the way it’s expressed. Let’s take a look at the above chart. Internal and implicit means that you are experiencing conflict, not
Some quick thoughts after the (very fun) workshop Rishi and I hosted yesterday: We are all constantly in conflict. Conflict is just what happens when you and someone you’re in relationship with want different things. We might describe ourselves as avoiding conflict, but I personally believe there is no such thing as avoiding conflict. There is only transmuting how you experience conflict. Internal vs external conflict: People who “don’t have conflict” in their lives generally just have internal conflict instead of externalized conflict. Example: instead of telling my friend, “You being…
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