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If You Feel Like You Have an Insatiable Need for Control, Read This

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Effort doesn't always work in your favor. Sometimes, it even works against you.

For many of us, 2020 has been a year of desperately attempting to cling on to some elusive level of certainty. I've wanted to write about this topic for a very long time, but I never quite had the words to explain it. Now, I do. This year has delivered so many unexpected blows that I've had no choice but to learn from experience. Let me start here: I was someone who did very well in school by learning (and excelling at) "the game of school" — put in effort, get a reward. This served me really well until the day after I graduated college. That's when I learned that the world operates in an…

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