we become the stories others tell about us - by maja

words shape us as much as they describe us

“Call a boy a gentleman and watch his shoulders straighten. Call a girl a lady and watch her spirit turn graceful. Humanity was brought into existence by God speaking words into the void of the universe. We tend to become what we are called.” - The Medicine of Hope I keep returning to that idea: we tend to become what we are called. Think of the words you reach for when you describe yourself: funny, rude, gentle. We wear these words as if they were entirely our own, but how many did we actually choose? How many were smuggled in, slipped to us through a passing comment, a stranger’s glance,…

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