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A Small Guide To Social Cues

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i think for all of the explicit learning that we do in school, the implicit stuff that we learn is how do we become people. and turns out that mean other children and peer pressure are really good reward functions. here is my best summary of the main ones. they may seem small and unnecessary. but i think they hold up the world. one overall framework that is useful to have, for the nerds out there, is from game theory. there are famously three "levels" you can play poker at: only considering your own cards, considering your opponents cards, and then considering what your opponent considers your cards to be. likewise in social games. level 1: only considering what your own preferences are. compliments and comments. if you'd like to tell someone some criticism of them, criticize them. unprompted and perhaps inappropriate: "you're looking beautiful today." don't consider what the situation is, or what they'd want to hear. personal boundaries and space. level 1 is if you want to give someon

A Small Guide To Social Cues modern society is difficult to live in. there are so many expectations. so many hidden rules. i think for all of the explicit learning that we do in school, the implicit stuff that we learn is how we become people. and turns out that mean other children and peer pressure are really good reward functions. here is my best summary of the main ones. they may seem small and unnecessary. but i think they hold up the world. one overall framework that is useful to have, for the nerds out there, is from game theory. there are famously three "levels" you can play poker at: o

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