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Rearing Children Who Will Like You

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My wife and I get along with our adult kids. I got along with my parents, she got along with hers. But I gather, mostly from things our kids say about their friends, that a lot of young adults don't get along with theirs. That raises three questions: Subscribe for free to receive new posts. 1. What determines whether adult children get along with their parents, in particular are there child-rearing approaches that make it more likely? 2. Is the pattern of children not liking their parents more common than in the past, if so why? 3. The possibility of having children who don't like you strikes me as one of the scariest things about having children. If it is becoming more common, could that be part of the reason for declining birth rates? Other consequences? There are two views of children — that they are small people who do not yet know very much or that they are pets who can talk. I prefer the former. One implication is that children and parents are, in a fundamental sense, peers. Obvi

My wife and I get along with our adult kids. I got along with my parents, she got along with hers. But I gather, mostly from things our kids say about their friends, that a lot of young adults don't get along with theirs. That raises three questions: 1. What determines whether adult children get along with their parents, in particular are there child-rearing approaches that make it more likely? 2. Is the pattern of children not liking their parents more common than in the past, if so why? 3. The possibility of having children who don't like you strikes me as one of the scariest things…

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