Judgyness

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It has been pointed out to me that I am judgy. It would be one thing if I was unkind, and didn't care about the person. Instead, though, I say, tapping the sign, so much bad behavior is the typical mind fallacy. And I would benefit hugely from someone who told me these things, and shocked me into thinking harder, perhaps even in the same abrasive manner (assuming that person was, of course, correct). I disagree easily, but change my mind quickly, and so speaking to me always has the subjective valence of "Jason thinks I'm wrong" (because when I stop thinking that, I've changed my mind.) A corollary: similar category of words that I use somewhat often are "You've changed my mind", "Yep that makes sense", "Yep, you're right", "Wow", "That is so elegant", "I love this person" and then, crediting the person, repeating the take for many of the next conversations. But, I would argue that I am the way that I am because I care about you and the truth, and that the meanest thing for me to do is

Some phrases that I use somewhat often, or things that I do: "I don't think it / you would be very helpful" "Have you considered being (better / more agentic)" "Skill issue" "That's an insane use of time / waste of time" "Ummmmmmm" "That's so useless" "What could've possibly compelled you to do this" "Constraints are fake" "What are you even doing?" "Obviously" "What do you care about?" "Yep that makes sense" laughs / smiles to myself eye-brow raise interrupts with question It has been pointed out to me that I am judgy. It would be one thing if I was unkind, and didn't care…

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