Rational romance - by David Chapman - Meaningness
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What systematic relationship is, why you might want it, and how to get it
It points out the benefits of doing so, and acknowledges the costs and limits. It makes suggestions for how to find or create systematic relationship if you want that. A systematic relationship provides autonomy with closeness. It’s an opportunity to see another, and be seen yourself, for who you each actually are. It offers smooth operation: order, predictability, understanding. It’s free from the emotional drama, acting-out, and interpersonal crises of a pre-systematic relationship. A systematic relationship delivers. Both partners can get what they need without screaming arguments at…
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