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socialization - by vincent huang - a slice of my mind

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recently i was thinking about how incredibly unsuccessful i’ve been at making new friends in sf. i’ve probably met a few hundred new people over the last year, from a pretty wide range of contexts (coworking sessions, housewarming/birthday parties, workouts, science events, twitter, etc), and have managed to keep in touch with ~0 of them, with the exception of people who read this blog. it seems like people who first meet me through the internet find me much more interesting than people who first meet me in-person last weekend one of my friends told me she wished she had a more distinctive personality. hearing that was very confusing because i thought she already had one. i suppose friendship is noticing and appreciating all the nuances in another person if i had to simplify my views on socializing with strangers into one chart, it would look something like this: i think everyone has an inner version of themselves which is extremely engaging and attractive to compatible people (related

recently i was thinking about how incredibly unsuccessful i’ve been at making new friends in sf. i’ve probably met a few hundred new people over the last year, from a pretty wide range of contexts (coworking sessions, housewarming/birthday parties, workouts, science events, twitter, etc), and have managed to keep in touch with ~0 of them, with the exception of people who read this blog. it seems like people who first meet me through the internet find me much more interesting than people who first meet me in-person last weekend one of my friends told me she wished she had a more distinctive…

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