stay in your own hoola hoop - Airplane Mode with Liz Plank

a visual metaphor for codependency

Whenever one of my friends get consumed about something that their significant other or their boss has done, I often repeat something that I once heard in a 12-step program: stay in your own hoola-hoop. The first time I say it to someone, they usually just stare at me perplexed as they wonder about how how a childhood game could apply to their very serious adult situation. But the hoola-hoop analogy is simple— it basically means stay on your side of the street. If someone is struggling to keep their hoola-hoop in motion, and you try and attempt to aid them, not only is that going to put you…

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