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postcard 51: on the act of caring as the backbone of society, nonchalance as an illusion of power, and my hatred of being told "to chill"

The Notebook (2003) A few months ago, I was texting this guy I liked. I already hate texting because I feel like I can never quite get across words exactly the way I mean it, but trying to talk to someone you are romantically interested in? A whole otherworldly migraine-nightmare. There is so much that goes into the science of texting a crush, like a potion concocted in a lab—you need just the right amount of interest, flirting, self-consciousness (but not too much), and the magic word: nonchalance. There is nothing worse than being too interested, too eager to talk to someone you’re into.…

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