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what makes a person interesting? - by emily north

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as someone who meets a lot of new people given my inclination to attend the opening of any envelope and as someone who dates quite a bit, i think a lot about what exactly makes a person interesting to me. this is obviously a very personal and malleable question, “interesting” is merely deemed by the sole recipient of a specific interaction. however, i do worry that it has become easier to appear interesting than it is to actually be interesting given our easy access to tools that are supposed feed our idiosyncrasies, washing away the work it takes to actually develop a unique opinion. i find that people often mistake “coolness” for “interest” as if their Prada Collapse sneakers were a packet of splenda they pour in their coffee in disguise of sugar. (obviously, i want a pair). my initial thought when i was reflecting on the question of what i find makes a person interesting to me is curiosity, it immediately endears me to a person and is the #1 quality i look for in friends and people

as someone who meets a lot of new people given my inclination to attend the opening of any envelope and as someone who dates quite a bit, i think a lot about what exactly makes a person interesting to me. this is obviously a very personal and malleable question, “interesting” is merely deemed by the sole recipient of a specific interaction. however, i do worry that it has become easier to appear interesting than it is to actually be interesting given our easy access to tools that are supposed feed our idiosyncrasies, washing away the work it takes to actually develop a unique opinion. i find…

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