learning to trust love when you have it - by harls

this is a continuation.

this is a continuation. a while ago, i wrote a piece called “i don’t know how to be loved without earning it.” it came from a place of unlearning, of realising how deeply transactional love had become in my mind, and how much effort i thought it required just to be chosen. this feels like the second chapter. not because the fear disappeared, but because something shifted. because this part of the journey exists to show that love doesn’t have to be earned to be real - and that learning to trust it is possible, even if it doesn’t come naturally at first. this isn’t a guide written from…

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