The Emotionally Literate and the Fear of Love

why understanding relationships may be the easiest way to avoid them

A friend’s cousin lives in New Jersey and visits India once every few years, usually with the air of someone conducting anthropological research on the rest of us. This time she arrived with an alarming enthusiasm for matcha and a fascination with modern dating culture. On the third evening of her visit she told me she had been using Dil Mil. “It’s very interesting”, she said. We scrolled through a couple of profiles with the concentration of people examining museum artefacts. “Everyone these days knows how to talk about feelings and yet no one actually seems to be falling in love”, she…

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