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Obvious travel advice - DYNOMIGHT INTERNET NEWSLETTER

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After seeing each other for a few months, many new couples take a short trip, which often ends in an apocalyptic, relationship-destroying fight. My theory is that’s the trip working as designed—couples do these trips out of an instinctual desire to stress-test their relationships. There’s not much point in packing light unless everyone is packing light. Some people have a weird anxiety about tourism— “I’m a traveller, not not a tourist” or whatever. Don’t be like that. Cultures vary in lots of arbitrary ways—how loud to talk, how (or if) to wait in line, how close to stand to other people, how to behave when you walk into a shop, how to smell, when you can blow your nose, etc. It’s good to be aware of these both as a producer of behavior (not offending others) and a consumer of behavior (not being offended when you’re not “supposed” to be). Different places have different “rules” like if you’re supposed to order drinks before or after food, when you can drink which kinds of coffee, or

Obvious travel advice Not entirely about food Jun 20, 2024 133 64 8 Share Mindset matters more than where you go. Who you go with matters more than where you go. After seeing each other for a few months, many new couples take a short trip, which often ends in an apocalyptic, relationship-destroying fight. My theory is that’s the trip working as designed—couples do these trips out of an instinctual desire to stress-test their relationships. There’s not much point in packing light unless everyone is packing light. Some people have a weird anxiety about tourism— “I’m a traveller , not a tourist ”

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