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I've been married to my wife for nearly a year now, but prior to that we'd been dating for 12 years, since we were both 15. Prior to getting married, we both felt as if it was a fait accompli, like a checkbox, a formality, and although we were excited to get married and have a wedding and all of these things, there was also a sense in which we both felt like, "this is not the hard part, we already did the hard part." But, and I can only attempt to articulate this, being married really did change something. I think it went like this. Prior to getting married, our relationship was not a distinct thing, it was just the name of a connection between two people. That thing was just made up of my feelings for them, and them for me, and yes they were very romantic feelings and yes they were often in deep and breathtaking alignment, but it felt like an exchange of information, a back and forth, a conversation. I said and did things, and she received them, and she said and did things, and I rece

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