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Should you marry her? - by Ajeya Cotra - Good Bones

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Weigh the costs against the benefits

Should you marry her? Weigh the costs against the benefits Ajeya Cotra May 08, 2026 304 61 24 Share Marriage is a contract: you promise not to break up with your partner even if you later end up wanting to, and they promise the same. 1 A wedding is a contract enforcement mechanism: by standing up in front of your community and declaring that you won’t leave each other, you make it harder to back out later. If you break up for frivolous or fixable reasons, your community will judge you. If you go to your friends for advice about your relationship struggles, they’ll be more oriented toward helpi

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