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The rare people who are solid - by Sasha Chapin

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Last year, I told my meditation teacher that I was feeling fine. “Uh-huh,” she said, clearly unconvinced by my bullshit. A few moments later, after she’d asked me some pointed questions about what was going on in my life, I found that I was shaking with rage. “I wanted to spare you this,” I said. “Don’t,” she said, “stay with it until it becomes clarity.” We sat together silently, until the anger transmuted from “urge to set the universe on fire” to “motivation to send a clearly worded email.” At the end of the call, I told her that I’d managed to hide my feelings from everyone else, but I couldn’t from her. “Isn’t that annoying?” she said. How did she do this magic trick? I’d guess that she noticed a failure of congruence. Something in my words was half-hearted; energetically, I was divided, as if holding something behind my back. I was trying to be away from myself. Given that my teacher is extremely high on congruence, she spotted this immediately. This is one of the gifts of congru

The rare people who are solid Notes on congruence Sasha Chapin Jan 12, 2026 1,293 84 229 Share Last year, I told my meditation teacher that I was feeling fine. “Uh-huh,” she said, clearly unconvinced by my bullshit. A few moments later, after she’d asked me some pointed questions about what was going on in my life, I found that I was shaking with rage. “I wanted to spare you this,” I said. “Don’t,” she said, “stay with it until it becomes clarity.” We sat together silently, until the anger transmuted from “urge to set the universe on fire” to “motivation to send a clearly worded email.” At the

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