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Opening this doc to write, I went to title this blank page “my tendency to talk about myself” but that in a nutshell highlights precisely what it is that I’m noticing and want to point at. I’ve been writing for the last 3 hours, a few posts about the spiritual dimensions of my to-do list app business, and I’ve noticed that some of my thoughts that I’m writing are drifting towards talking about myself. And I’m struck by how different talking about myself is from talking as myself, ie sharing my experience. I’m noticing a draw towards making generalizations about myself—about what’s salient to me, about what matters to me, about how I seem to be in the world, my tendencies or personality or soul… in contrast, presumably, with other people. Telling the reader “this is how I am”, as if they can’t observe for themselves. “This is how to see me.” I’m watching myself navigate this as I write this piece as well. The previous paragraph initially began “I’m noticing I’m drawn towards” which is a

--> --> Malcolm Ocean • culture, change, and mental models --> Home Our Blog how to become ungaslightable Posted by Malcolm / 1st Jun 2026 / 0 Comments (the written-in-20-minutes version. feel free to ask questions in the comments below or on twitter if you would like me to unpack something or you try it and get stuck at some step!) in 3SED, my 3 Steps for Empowered Dialogue , self-validation is the step that unlocks curious listening or “listen to yourself so thoroughly that you couldn’t possibly lose track of what you know” this idea of becoming ungaslightable also shows up in: Passiona

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