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On love & relationships | Evan Conrad

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Over the last few years, my takes on romantic relationships have solidified. Here they are! I wouldn't take them as "advice" so much as "Evan's values." 1. You just pick someone and love them. People get too caught up in finding a perfect person, and don't understand that their partner is fluid and ever-changing. Love is a choice. If someone asks you why you're with your current partner, the answer should always be "because I chose to be." If that choice is dependent on your partner remaining fixed in place, or dependent on a fantasy version of them you have in your head, then you have fantasy love. Love is not desire or admiration, it's acceptance. It's saying "I love the person you are, whoever that may be today." 2. You should just be clear about intentions. These days, when I ask someone out, I say "date". Not "hey want to go to thing together". Date. "You seem cool, let's go on a date." Not "hey, let's go do something 1-1 in a way that's ambiguously could be a date." I've asked ou

Over the last few years, my takes on romantic relationships have solidified. Here they are! I wouldn't take them as "advice" so much as "Evan's values." 1. You just pick someone and love them. People get too caught up in finding a perfect person, and don't understand that their partner is fluid and ever-changing. Love is a choice. If someone asks you why you're with your current partner, the answer should always be "because I chose to be." If that choice is dependent on your partner remaining fixed in place, or dependent on a fantasy version of them you have in your head, then you have fantasy

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