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Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger

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When you look back at the most fruitful moments of your life years from now, you’ll be surprised to discover how many of them unfolded amid a big loss or a crisis or in the face of a giant unknown. That’s true because we sometimes have the most access to our passion, love, and delight in being alive at the very moments when it’s the hardest to tolerate our intense feelings. Our feelings are so strong that we have a constant urge to flee, or to find some solution through our intellect, or to dismiss the sources of our despair or uncertainty as unacceptable. When we say to ourselves, “This feels bad. I need a way to fix this!” that’s the very moment when the most growth and promise lies at our fingertips. But in order to access it, we have to do the opposite of what we want to do. We have to resist the urge to analyze or find a solution or protect ourselves from our emotions. We have to stop and feel more instead, without changing a thing. This is when the sky starts to sparkle unexpecte

Tolerating Unknowns Will Make You Stronger Learning not to flail and fight and flee in the face of big questions opens your heart, mind, and body to a more deeply connected, satisfying existence. Heather Havrilesky Mar 20, 2024 477 31 96 Share Moments or years hence, having reminisced (1990-1991) by Dorothea Tanning When you look back at the most fruitful moments of your life years from now, you’ll be surprised to discover how many of them unfolded amid a big loss or a crisis or in the face of a giant unknown. That’s true because we sometimes have the most access to our passion, love, and deli

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