Leah Fernandez

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No circumstance is so bizarre that it will force you to become someone you aren't - in fact, you will turn out to be exactly who you are.
But What If This Time You Stayed: On "Someone Who Will Love You In All Your Damaged Glory" by Raphael Bob-Waksberg — long story short
YOU CAN WRITE IT ALL DOWN, YOU CAN PUT IT IN YOUR BOOK OF FACTS, BUT THE TRUTH IS NO ONE CAN EVER REALLY UNDERSTAND THE TANGLE OF EXPERIENCES AND PASSIONS THAT MAKES YOU WHO YOU ARE
But What If This Time You Stayed: On "Someone Who Will Love You In All Your Damaged Glory" by Raphael Bob-Waksberg — long story short
we’re under-committed as a society
Hugging the X-Axis - David Perell
having children gives you a stake in the world of tomorrow, and that stake is driven by blood
Hugging the X-Axis - David Perell
underestimating the depth of expertise and the range of opportunities available to people with a reputation for excellence in a particular area
Hugging the X-Axis - David Perell
tradeoff between the shine of novelty and the consistency of commitment
Hugging the X-Axis - David Perell
Urban designers have also found that communities need to be part of the process of designing their shared spaces to ensure they're used
The Cure for Loneliness: Hang Out in Bars and Parks, Work Less
The more things to do, the more people come, the more comfortable people are, the more they interact
The Cure for Loneliness: Hang Out in Bars and Parks, Work Less
Third spaces, which include bars, parks, coffee shops, libraries, and even sidewalks, have been in decline for decades. Racism, classism, the climate crisis, overpolicing, a car-based economy, and the privatization and rising costs of amenities have all narrowed access to them.
The Cure for Loneliness: Hang Out in Bars and Parks, Work Less
The group, named after what sociologists call any social setting that's not home (the first place) or work (the second)
The Cure for Loneliness: Hang Out in Bars and Parks, Work Less
hey want me to be burdened by the responsibilities a woman “should” have. Fragile masculinity, regressive thinking, insecurity?
recent thoughts about love, dating, marriage, breakups
Your capacity to love is so vast and your ability to forgive is instinctual
recent thoughts about love, dating, marriage, breakups
In a world where we believe time is solely linear, by contrast, we lose our capacity to prepare.
A More Hopeful Way to Look at Time | by Yancey Strickler | Forge
. Navigating time is much easier when you’re aware that the spiral exists.
A More Hopeful Way to Look at Time | by Yancey Strickler | Forge
Those echoes are opportunities for us to either make better decisions and grow into more mature versions of ourselves (shifting the spiral “up”) or to make worse decisions and regress (shifting the spiral “down.”)
A More Hopeful Way to Look at Time | by Yancey Strickler | Forge
“You will circle through some of the same issues over and over, each time at a different level. There is no such thing as being done with an artistic life. Frustrations and rewards exist at all levels on the path. Our aim here is to find the trail, establish our footing, and begin the climb.”
A More Hopeful Way to Look at Time | by Yancey Strickler | Forge
These are all spaces where depressurized conversation is possible because of their non-indexed, non-optimized, and non-gamified environments.
The Dark Forest Theory of the Internet | by Yancey Strickler | OneZero
Because love takes you past the need for prestige—past rationality and diminishing marginal returns—into a room lit up purely by desire
you like books and think they are your friends - by Ava
But I’ve always loved the Feynman quote about studying hard “what interests you the most in the most undisciplined, irreverent and original manner possible.” Refusing to view something as means to an end, being so devoted you’re thrust outside the usual calculus of value and optimization. That’s love: not expecting a return on your investment.
you like books and think they are your friends - by Ava
I don't choose my obsessions so much as stumble into their open arms.
on obsession
I try to inhabit a version of myself with no ego and no fear, in hopes that consistency will make it real; I try to love things without needing to hold onto them; I let my feelings in, knowing that with time they'll pass through me.
on obsession
I wanted to learn how to manage obsession: to be attached to things and not have them destroy me. I wanted to learn how to believe that nothing is the answer, because everything is the answer; that joy is not concentrated but diffuse, that it's in the air around me already, that what I have is what I need.
on obsession
Obsession is repetitive; passion is generative. Obsession is a way to redirect desire, to avoid the intensity of your emotions by channeling them into something else; passion is a way for you to fully integrate what you feel.
on obsession
Relishing the company of people who sometimes make you feel, by comparison, uninformed, closed to new ideas, disordered, defensive, rigid, fearful, unambitious is an acquired skill. It kicks up shame. It humbles you. It dares you to grow. (unknown)
finding the right people - by Nicole - startingfromnix
Don’t surround yourself with “smarter” people. The trick is to surround yourself with people who are free in ways you’re not
finding the right people - by Nicole - startingfromnix
“Feelings are something you have; not something you are.”
4 Secrets of Emotionally Stable People | by Nick Wignall | May, 2023 | Medium
Our culture tends to romanticize and glorify emotions as quasi-mysticalexperiences, full of meaning and import. But in reality, emotions are simply one of many functions of your body
4 Secrets of Emotionally Stable People | by Nick Wignall | May, 2023 | Medium
To assume that your emotions are always important and meaningful is a recipe for suffering and emotional instability.
4 Secrets of Emotionally Stable People | by Nick Wignall | May, 2023 | Medium
Chain of Thought (CoT) prompting1 is a recently developed prompting method, which encourages the LLM to explain its reasoning
🟢 Chain of Thought Prompting | Learn Prompting: Your Guide to Communicating with AI
Do we express ourselves more freely and clearly with a pen than with a keyboard?
Handwriting vs typing: is the pen still mightier than the keyboard? | Neuroscience | The Guardian
Drawing each letter by hand improves our grasp of the alphabet because we really have a “body memory”
Handwriting vs typing: is the pen still mightier than the keyboard? | Neuroscience | The Guardian
Drawing each letter by hand substantially improves subsequent recognition
Handwriting vs typing: is the pen still mightier than the keyboard? | Neuroscience | The Guardian
The tragedy of any one life isn’t that it ends; it’s that it continues and continues and continues
BoJack Horseman finale recap: A life longer than death - Vox
Maybe BoJack Horseman can find inner peace, but is it worth it if none of the people he’s hurt can find their way back?
BoJack Horseman finale recap: A life longer than death - Vox
Sometimes life’s a bitch and then you keep living
BoJack Horseman finale recap: A life longer than death - Vox
We’re encouraged to enumerate our flaws, systemically comb through our childhoods for neat, pert little stories that can explain how each of them came to be, and then destroy them
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
You do not have to treat your flaws like action items that must be systematically targeted and eliminated in order to receive a return on investment
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
it’s that nothing is actually solved by intellectualizing and pathologizing every part of what we feel — and when we try, we’re usually sort of wrong anyway. Your emotions, by and large, are not a problem to be fixed in service of producing a better, more manageable, more loveable self. They just want to be felt.
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
But to extrapolate that reality into the idea that we shouldn’t want to tend to our loved ones, to receive them as flawed and imperfect people and care for them anyway, is a grave miscorrection. We all exist to save each other. There is barely anything else worth living for.
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
they are imagining a world in which a fundamental purpose of human connection has been replaced with a capital exchange
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
My problem is the positioning of a one-size-fits-all solution as the only way to become a good, functional, whole person — and the idea that one must be “whole” in order to love or be loved.
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
Seductively, it whispers that you “don’t owe anyone anything.” It glamourizes — and moralizes — a life spent alone.
no good alone - by rayne fisher-quann - internet princess
As perhaps the most prominent of such data sources, social media data has become the largest cross-sectional and longitudinal dataset on human emotions, cognitions, behaviors, and health in human history.
The Happiness Report 2023
Observing altruistic acts, or even learning about them from others, may also influence observers to be more altruistic in their future interactions
The Happiness Report 2023
Living in an environment with peace conveys direct benefits, even more so when such peace is not dependent on state repression
The Happiness Report 2023
If we are to understand whether a government can effectively pursue happiness as a goal of public policy, we need to appreciate what drives government effectiveness.
The Happiness Report 2023
they think of well-being as the ultimate good, the summum bonum
The Happiness Report 2023
Human beings do not spring into the world fully formed, like mushrooms, as Hobbes once suggested.
The Happiness Report 2023
We should care about the distribution of happiness and be happier when misery can be relieved.
The Happiness Report 2023
he famously defined eudaimonia as “the activity of the soul according to virtue”. In other words, high eudaimonia required a virtuous character, including moderation, fortitude, a sense of justice, an ability to form and maintain friendships, as well as good citizenship in the polis (the political community)
The Happiness Report 2023