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Martyna Stawna

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  • be aware of the process by which your negative beliefs seek validation
    undoing the pain
  • to love the people in your life, you must love not only them, but their stories. love their pain as well as their joy, their failure as well as their success. love even the ways they've been hurt and the ways they've hurt others. love not just the place they are now, but the places they've come from. because all of that is still part of their story.
    undoing the pain
  • through loving and accepting those things in the lives of others you will be able to love and accept the same in your own life
    undoing the pain
  • if you can accept the character in a story failing in an embarrassing way you can accept yourself failing in that same way
    undoing the pain
  • free people send clear signals and actively look for the good nature in others
    undoing the pain
  • “be conservative in what you do, be liberal in what you accept from others.” how do you do the latter? there's a clever trick. whenever you see mixed signals, what you see will be based on what you expect to see. so: actively look for the good nature in everything that everyone expresses. practice this. practice it until it becomes second-nature.[17] this is the trauma antidote, because trauma is the exact opposite. trauma trains us to look for the bad nature in all that is shown to us. practice looking for the good nature in others and their expression
    undoing the pain
  • sometimes you don't know what you want. this is okay. you are allowed to communicate your uncertainty! the important part is to do so knowingly, with intention
    undoing the pain
  • whenever you can, find a way to enjoy today. find a way to enjoy this second, if you can. right now. focus on the “now”, the only point at which you can influence your world
    undoing the pain
  • of utmost importance that you find ways to enjoy your journey there. and that means enjoying “now
    undoing the pain
  • “when i did the thing which i now regret, what was it that i was needing?” once you find this need, a weight will vanish from your shoulders. it is harder to hold your mistakes against yourself when you understand and accept why you made them.
    undoing the pain
  • all of them were done because of a need.
    undoing the pain
  • once you forgive yourself, you can learn from your actions. as you get used to doing this,
    undoing the pain
  • free people forgive themselves for mistakes so that they may learn
    undoing the pain
  • to be free, we must forgive ourselves for our mistakes
    undoing the pain
  • free people avoid the concept of “punishment” in their relationships
    undoing the pain
  • if you truly wish for something to change, you must help make that change happen
    undoing the pain
  • in order to fully enjoy experiences in our lives, we must let ourselves feel them
    undoing the pain
  • loving them, unironically, without inhibition. finding experiences that truly resonate with you
    undoing the pain
  • we can choose to focus on our feelings. let them run wild
    undoing the pain
  • if you use love whenever you can, you'll have energy left for everything else. love is the magic spear that can pierce any “ugh field” love is the rocket of motivation that can send humanity to the stars love is the fuel that lets you do things without burning yourself dry
    undoing the pain
  • even the most fun thing can become a duty, if we let it
    undoing the pain
  • we say “we must do this, to achieve our dream”. and in doing so, we lose track of our love
    undoing the pain
  • keep track of your keys. learn which ones work best, and when
    undoing the pain
  • find keys you didn't even remember you had
    undoing the pain
  • make note of your keys.
    undoing the pain
  • keys we can use to connect with other people.
    undoing the pain
  • wouldn't you rather be able to enjoy everything? does it really ever make you happy to not enjoy things
    undoing the pain
  • practice being excited. look outward, not inward. listen earnestly
    undoing the pain
  • practice doing things without justification. practice sharing things with others without justification. practice investigating your feelings, without justifying them
    undoing the pain
  • trying to “understand a feeling” is not the same thing as justifying it. if you have a feeling you do not like, and wish to grow beyond it, justifying that feeling does precisely the opposite
    undoing the pain
  • but we become defensive to ourselves
    undoing the pain
  • sharing your love is not for them. it is for you
    undoing the pain
  • practice the option to share your love. earnestly. do not try to get anything in return
    undoing the pain
  • pay more attention to everything in the world around you
    undoing the pain
  • The positive answer would be the ultimate (and very surprising) rectifiability result for metric spaces
    Rectifiability - an overview | ScienceDirect Topics
  • Does it follow that X is m-rectifiable (in the sense that almost all of X is contained in countably many Lipschitz images of subsets of ℝ � )?
    Rectifiability - an overview | ScienceDirect Topics
  • The implication saying that rectifiable sets have density one almost everywhere was proved by Kirchheim [27] in full generality. The key behind this is the existence of metric derivative
    Rectifiability - an overview | ScienceDirect Topics
  • Another useful rectifiability criterion (due, in increasing level of generality, to Besicovitch, Marstrand and Mattila) says that (under the above assumptions) A is k-rectifiable if and only if its k-dimensional density � � ( � , � ) = lim � → 0 � � ( � ∩ � ( � , � ) ) / ( � ( � ) � � ) is equal to one at � � almost every x ∈ A. This could well be true in every metric space, although it was shown only in the cases when either k = 1 or the space in question is a subset of a uniformly convex Banach space.
    Rectifiability - an overview | ScienceDirect Topics
  • highly unlikely to have come from a population of individuals in which average female participation in big-game hunting was less than 30%. Rather, plausible models range between 30 and 50% female participation,
    Female hunters of the early Americas | Science Advances
  • The thing I like about writing is that it’s quite literally thinking—a way for me access my own interiority and construct something from it. What I write is all mine, it’s a living thing, it’s an extension of me that wanders out into the world. It is desire turned inwards instead of outwards, focused instead of displaced. It’s a way to access self-knowledge and self-respect.
    how to avoid half-heartedness - by Ava - bookbear express
  • If you’re serious about what you love, does that mean everyone will love you? Absolutely not. People will continue to kind of like you and like you a little bit and not like you at all. The difference is that it won’t matter so much, because you already have something to pour your love into, something that nourishes you. So you don’t have to spend your time watching everyone else to see if they glance towards you and deign to bestow their love. You have so much within you. Pay attention to it. Pay attention to your feelings of discomfort and uncertainty—watch yourself as you think and feel.
    how to avoid half-heartedness - by Ava - bookbear express
  • David Mumford and John Tate,
    The Extraordinary Vision of Alexander Grothendieck - Human, All Too Human
  • category theory is, at the very least, a formal tool in with which to organize and communicate ideas.
    The Extraordinary Vision of Alexander Grothendieck - Human, All Too Human
  • “categories of” takes on the flavor of Godel’s work
    The Extraordinary Vision of Alexander Grothendieck - Human, All Too Human
  • categories of categories of categories, leading to topos theory
    The Extraordinary Vision of Alexander Grothendieck - Human, All Too Human
  • Working on the level of categories of categories turns out to be wildly enlightening and is the reason that Eilenberg and Mac Lane developed the theory in the first place
    The Extraordinary Vision of Alexander Grothendieck - Human, All Too Human
  • Most people are probably overestimating the negative consequences of talking openly with their partners.
    👫 relationships are challenging + a lot of work
  • It’s actually entirely possible to have an affair with your own spouse – just literally decide to break from your routine and ask each other questions about things you don’t normally talk about, and be honest with each other. Do hard and scary things together.
    👫 relationships are challenging + a lot of work
  • Relationships become boring because they get reduced into shell-scripts, patterns and routines – because people avoid the difficult work of communicating hard, painful things to one another. At this point some people, desperate for stimulation, do crazy shit like cheat.
    👫 relationships are challenging + a lot of work
  • really about exposing vulnerable bits of your psychology to one another.
    👫 relationships are challenging + a lot of work