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37 things people love about Sasha Chapin - by Cate Hall

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This week’s post is something a little different, in honor of my husband Sasha’s birthday yesterday. Getting together with Sasha was one of the pivotal acts of my life — something that set me on a totally different course than I would have been on otherwise, one with a lot more degrees of mental freedom. Meeting him was like encountering an alien intelligence — someone much smarter than me in a way that I didn’t realize people could be smarter. He had a kind of mastery over his own inner life, and a corresponding ability to model the inner lives of other people, that I hadn’t experienced before. I know Sasha has this kind of effect on many people, but I don’t know if he really knows it. So I asked 37 of his favorite people what they love most about him, and picked out my favorites among the 100+ they sent back. “That he’s good at looking at people. Like in a way where it feels like he’s looking freshly, not out of habit.” “That if he learns a better way to be, he will actually change h

This week’s post is something a little different, in honor of my husband Sasha’s birthday yesterday. Getting together with Sasha was one of the pivotal acts of my life — something that set me on a totally different course than I would have been on otherwise, one with a lot more degrees of mental freedom. Meeting him was like encountering an alien intelligence — someone much smarter than me in a way that I didn’t realize people could be smarter. He had a kind of mastery over his own inner life, and a corresponding ability to model the inner lives of other people, that I hadn’t experienced…

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