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Don’t surround yourself with “smarter” people. The trick is to surround yourself with people who are free in ways you’re not. (Ribbonfarm) I’ve been living by this concept before I could consciously articulate it. When I think about it, all of my closest friends are free in ways I am not. More at ease socially, more carefree, more emotionally aware. They differ in what they value, what they desire, what ‘winning’ looks like. e.g. they have more confidence at approaching people than I do, or more nuanced, like they are much better at managing risk than I am. I admire this about them. Relishing the company of people who sometimes make you feel, by comparison, uninformed, closed to new ideas, disordered, defensive, rigid, fearful, unambitious is an acquired skill. It kicks up shame. It humbles you. It dares you to grow. (unknown) From the Ribbonfarm post: We can finally define what it means for someone to be differently free from you. They are people who are playing just a slightly differ

The Late Spring by Barry McGalen Don’t surround yourself with “smarter” people. The trick is to surround yourself with people who are free in ways you’re not. (Ribbonfarm) I’ve been living by this concept before I could consciously articulate it. When I think about it, all of my closest friends are free in ways I am not. More at ease socially, more carefree, more emotionally aware. They differ in what they value, what they desire, what ‘winning’ looks like. e.g. they have more confidence at approaching people than I do, or more nuanced, like they are much better at managing risk than I am.…

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