Making your heart bigger - by Kasra - Bits of Wonder

Loving those who can’t give you what you want

The friendship and the shadow of betrayal, by R. B. Kitaj The biggest obstacle to our capacity to love each other is that we fear the asymmetry of giving and not receiving. But the heart is a muscle: you can make it bigger by training it, and the bigger it gets the less it cares for symmetry or saving face. Instead of repetitions of lifting weights, you train your heart with repetitions of directing compassion at things, like that friend who's less available to see you than they used to be, or the crush who ghosted you after several nice dates. I've been thinking about how someone saying…

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