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Why I've given up on talking to men about sexism

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Iwas once told that there is strength in admitting defeat. Today, I am admitting defeat when it comes to the challenge of educating men about sexism. Perhaps ‘educating’ is overstating my ambition. I am not an educator with a platform, just a quiet feminist hoping to be treated better by the men in her life. I am just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to understand that his apathy towards the patriarchy and failure to acknowledge his everyday male privilege is negatively impacting my ability to exist safely in the world. It took being sexually assaulted, but I’m finally done attempting these conversations. You can bang your head against a brick wall/attempt difficult discussions with men, over and over again, but sometimes something happens that crystallises why you might be better off simply abandoning your quest. For context, the arc of my feminism has followed what I would guess is a fairly normal path for a white, middle-class gender-normative(ish) woman in the UK. I w

Why I've given up on talking to men about sexism Skip to Content I was once told that there is strength in admitting defeat. Today, I am admitting defeat when it comes to the challenge of educating men about sexism. Perhaps ‘educating’ is overstating my ambition. I am not an educator with a platform, just a quiet feminist hoping to be treated better by the men in her life. I am just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to understand that his apathy towards the patriarchy and failure to acknowledge his everyday male privilege is negatively impacting my ability to exist safely in the w

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