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I’m Hard, I’m Wet - by Dmitry - the dosage makes it so

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Vanishingly few men are so attractive they drive a woman wild by virtue of lying there, whereas women elicit male infatuation by just being naked. If you can get what you want by simply being, or if you must perform to access it, your actions will be dramatically different. It isn’t a question of effort, but need. The sexual leverage is skewed because the desire and lust is; men want it bad, and she wants it a certain way, so she dictates the terms. Your standing in any exchange, be it explicit negotiation or embodied mating ritual, is predicated on your ability to say “no”. The more options you have, the greater your ability to walk away and be picky, and she does not lack sexual options. Women are the gatekeepers of sex and reproduction, men the gatekeepers of commitment and violence; a gatekeeper decides who comes into the garden, and on what grounds. Sexually, this means men must perform to get what they want, and women select, react, and judge this performance. A judge can “lie th

This essay was written while listening to this song. Vanishingly few men are so attractive they drive a woman wild by lying there, whereas women reliably elicit male infatuation by occupying space. If you can get what you want by simply being, versus having to perform for it, your actions will be dramatically different. It isn’t a question of effort, but need. The sexual leverage is skewed because the desire is; men want it bad, and she wants it a certain way, so she dictates the terms. Your standing in any exchange, be it explicit negotiation or embodied mating ritual, is predicated on…

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