Think of Pavlov
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almost all interactions are repeat games
People often treat interactions as one-off events. They want to win this argument, prove their value, be right in the moment. But almost everything in life is a repeat game. You’re going to see these people again — and even the people watching from the sidelines are taking notes. Every interaction is training the people around you. After it’s over, they’ll like you a little more or a little less. They’ll be more or less likely to bring you problems. They’ll be more or less likely to recommend you or avoid you. And just as important, you’re training them on the type of problems to bring…
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