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and their layers

understanding people and their layers Emily Yu Mar 22, 2026 14 2 1 Share Subscribe the most intimate thing you can do for someone is to understand them. to appreciate the side they’re comfortable showing to the world and to know how they want other people to see them this is the first layer of understanding. pay attention to how they converse with you and with others — their conversations are likely very fine tuned to how they wish to present themselves and to how they think about themselves. 1 we filter and think before we speak and many of the conversations we have are ones we’ve had countle

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