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crushes - by Claire Wang - cold brew blog

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what is a crush if not a breaking of a boundary?

What is a crush if not a breaking of a boundary? (Originally posted on my website here.) “To love is to be delighted by the happiness of another.” - Leibniz I think a lot about the sort of “frames” of connections we have, or the source of consent as a fundamental way of deciding to do anything. Fundamentally, having a crush on someone is pushing the boundaries of the existing frame you have with someone. This is not at all a bad thing— after all, without pushing the boundaries of life, you will never get anywhere! no change! But I think the default “negative” connotations that come with…

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