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are these my people? - by steve nguyen - steve’s synapses

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We've all been there: that moment when you make an introduction or tell a story, and you know it didn't land the way you intended. The silence feels heavy, and your mind races through familiar justifications: "Maybe these people are just assholes." “Everyone should be curious about others, regardless of their interests." "I should've mentioned that cool thing I did that one time, or referenced someone they might get along with." When a story falls flat within a social circle, I've learned to examine the situation through two distinct lenses: The Delivery Lens: “Wow, the story I told kind of sucks. Something about the words I used, the tone I spoke with or my energy level did not hit and I need to figure out how to make it resonate in the future.” The Audience Lens: “Okay, in this particular setting, and at this point in time, these are not my people and they won’t generally enjoy what I have to say. I should go find other people where my stories/words will resonate.” Was it a problem w

We've all been there: that moment when you make an introduction or tell a story, and you know it didn't land the way you intended. The silence feels heavy, and your mind races through familiar justifications: "Maybe these people are just assholes." “Everyone should be curious about others, regardless of their interests." "I should've mentioned that cool thing I did that one time, or referenced someone they might get along with." When a story falls flat within a social circle, I've learned to examine the situation through two distinct lenses: The Delivery Lens: “Wow, the story I told…

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