‘How Do I Get Over Coming in Second Place?’

Rejection teaches you how to please yourself.

Light Path (1959) by Helen Lundeberg Dear Polly, I’ve always dated pretty nice, normal guys. For years I never really related when other women would talk about how horrible the men in their lives treated them. I’ve also never really been rejected before. In my limited dating experience, I’ve always chosen men that I felt confident liked me back. What can I say? I like a sure thing. Of course this trend didn’t continue. After a mutual end to a two-year relationship, I met a guy on a dating app that I was, for once, wildly attracted to. On paper he was pretty similar to my previous exes,…

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