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honesty in relationships - by Ava - bookbear express

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When communicating in any intimate relationship, it’s important to strive to be both honest and tactful. I say this as someone who struggled to be fully honest in relationships for most of my life. I was squarely in the “inauthentic” quadrant—I was always tactful, but I didn’t always communicate my internal state, because I figured “Well, it’s not going to change anything.” My philosophy on honest communication now: Most people claim that they’re concealing information for their partner’s benefit. Common justifications: he would be so hurt, it’s not like she can change it anyway, it’s not his fault. In general, it’s almost always the case that the real reason is self-serving: you don’t want to be honest because you’re scared it will change how the person acts towards you. Which leads us to: It is my belief that it is wrong to conceal information that the other person might act on. Like, have you ever considered that if your girlfriend knew you just weren’t that in love with her, she’d

When communicating in any intimate relationship, it’s important to strive to be both honest and tactful. I say this as someone who struggled to be fully honest in relationships for most of my life. I was squarely in the “inauthentic” quadrant—I was always tactful, but I didn’t always communicate my internal state, because I figured “Well, it’s not going to change anything.” My philosophy on honest communication now: Most people claim that they’re concealing information for their partner’s benefit. Common justifications: he would be so hurt, it’s not like she can change it anyway, it’s not…

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