letter four: memento mori - by sha

who will you be when the grieving is done?

Warning: This letter contains discussions of death, surgery, anatomy, grief and suicide. If you think any of these topics could be triggering in any way, or if these imagery might leave you queasy, absolutely please feel free to pass on this one. Dearest friend, I said we’ll see each other in two weeks’ time, yet here I am with a question that I don’t know how to ask without sounding like Wednesday Addams. It seems I miss you too much when I am not writing to you once a week, so here is the question anyway: What, if any, was the first celebrity death you remember feeling? I say feeling,…

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• Who By Very Slow Decayslatestarcodex.com
• The Deaths—and Lives—of Two Sons | The New Yorkernewyorker.com
• How We Grieve: Meghan O’Rourke on the Messiness of Mourning and Learning to Live with Loss – The Marginalianthemarginalian.org
• 'My Dad Died Unexpectedly And I Can't Get Over It!'ask-polly.com
• grieving someone who is still alivesundusalfe.substack.com
• On Losing a Daughter - The Atlantictheatlantic.com
• the best of us | writingmasonjwang.com
• The grief of losing your sense of self is like getting to Heaven and being upset they don't have your favorite flavor of La Croixaltered.substack.com
• Memento mori - Wikipediaen.wikipedia.org
• Grief is a Bird in an Airportsubstack.com
• Nintil - There was only momnintil.com
• Deliberate Grieving — LessWronglesswrong.com