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Self-Love Doesn't Require You to Become Huggy and Passive

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on the tyranny of love and light

The idea of self-love nauseates some people. To some, it implies passive self-congratulation. There is a certain lifestyle that could be implied by the phrase, one in which you are a gentle, fuzzy creature, always smiling and hugging and dancing and frolicking, never demanding more of yourself, never encountering friction. A sweet, passive existence. There’s nothing wrong with being endlessly sweet if that’s your thing, if that’s the state you arrive at when you achieve some state of self-harmony. But for a lot of people, trying to become a huggy love machine would mean flattening their…

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