Why Intelligent People Often Struggle With Love

There is a particular kind of loneliness that thoughtful people know well.

There is a particular kind of loneliness that thoughtful people know well. From the outside, they appear self-aware. They read psychology. Philosophy. Literature. They understand attachment styles. Trauma. Defense mechanisms. They can explain exactly why their last relationship ended. And yet somehow, the emotional experience keeps repeating. Different person. Different face. Different story. Yet the same distance. The same anxiety. The same feeling that something important remains just out of reach. Eventually a question appears: “If I understand myself this well, why do I keep…

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• Edward Friedman

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