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The relationship between our fears and others

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We explore my latest fear (of letting you down) and the ways how we show up for others impacts their ability to handle fear.

I haven’t written for a few days and I have a sense of discomfort. I’m all about using what I’m learning, so let’s break this down and see what’s really going on. First, feel the feeling and give it a name. I feel this the strongest in my stomach, it’s a bit unsettled and tight as I type this. I’ll call what I’m feeling in this moment as “guilt” or maybe “disappointment”. Next, I notice the thoughts coming from the “monsters”. If you’ve ever seen the movie Inside Out, you’ll be able to visualize how I think about this. They’re saying things like: People are going to be disappointed and…

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