Comments - why is modern dating so hard? - by Isabel

allow me to play carrie bradshaw for a minute here

24 yo 7/10 guy meets 24 yo 7/10 girl. They're objectively 99%ile in compatibility. Woman thinks: I can go on dates with 100 8.5/10 guys in the next 6 months if I want. Won't I be able to seduce one of them into sticking around? Man thinks: Every day I wait, I get richer and higher status. If I bide my time and re-enter the market in eight years, won't I have 100 8.5 girls eating out of my hands? So they both pass. Women have variance/luck/volume on their side. Men have time on theirs. Each is tempted to play his advantage to get a better deal than he warrants. "Tools, skills, and…

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