Is inconvenience the cost of community? | Dazed
It’s become normalised to prioritise ‘protecting your peace’ over showing up for your friends – but temporary discomfort is a small price to pay for lasting social connection
“‘Inconvenience is the cost of community,’ I repeat to myself as I climb six flights of stairs for my friend’s birthday party for her cat,” reads a semi-viral X post that speaks to the hyper-specific (and sometimes ridiculous) ways in which we show up for the people we love. Cat parties aside, this can also look like helping a friend move flats while nursing a monumental hangover, dragging yourself to an experimental sound bath just because a housemate wants to go, or braving the Victoria line at rush hour to console a loved one in need – even though you envisaged a blissful evening of doing n
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