flâneur

intimacy is both taking and being taken for granted

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politeness might be robbing you of deeper connection

it was a sunday morning, sunlight peeking through the living room blinds, and I woke up in my friend hannah’s apartment. she was already awake in the kitchen, toiling over the stove making pancakes for us. as soon as she caught me rising, she hurried over with a big grin on her face and a cheery good morning. she asked me if I wanted water, or coffee, or tea, and then dashed over to the fridge to offer even the half drank soda she had leftover from last night. I gave a warm smile and said water was a-okay. as she handed me a mug of water, she backed up and said, “oh wait — I can also warm…

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