Why Are You Performing for an Audience That Isn’t Watching?

On imaginary audiences and borrowed expectations.

18th June, 2026. Hello my love, You are not that important, and I say this with a lot of love. No one noticed that your left eye looked weird in that photo you posted, no one noticed that the person you thought was waving at you was actually waving at someone 5 feet behind you. No one noticed that you failed that thing you built a lot of courage to try. No one cares. It took me a really really long time to realize that I perceive myself far more than anyone else will ever perceive me. You are not being watched the way you think you are my love, you are the performer and the audience so…

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• Napoléon Bonaparte

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