an ai-inspired model for human behavior change
one powerful way to change something about you might be to take inspiration from how language models learn. eg. let's say you are trying to learn social skills / emotional maturity. how might you do so? a commonly recognized pattern in psychology is that in order to do this for wholesale change of all behavior, a full environmental reset / a change in the people who you spend time with overall is the best strategy (perhaps your "rl environment" is a more mechanistic explanation for why this works). i think that it is possible to do in gradations, but have generally found this true. the most reliable way to become more like someone else (even if inadvertent) is to spend time with them. there is, of course, an annoying cold start problem where you don't even have the social awareness to pick up whether a given behavior is good or bad, and therefore your verifier doesn't even work and can only pick up the coarsest of signals (eg. a kind friend telling you bluntly to your face that what yo